Advice From My Mother (everything a mother must teach her daughter)
You must never speak when spoken to,
speak when the words are on your lips.
You will find a way to make them listen.
Do not do things sometimes,
it should be always
or never, like
always keep your chin in the air
but never your nose
you are much more grounded than that.
Learn to break midnight park silence with your shattered bottles,
create your own night sky,
sit amongst your star glittering shrapnel until the sun kisses the horizon.
Blush, knowing this beauty is too intimate to bear witness to
even though you know that the sun’s true love is the moon
he is forever chasing her crescent smile.
Always smile.
Even at the ones who cock their gun at you,
and there will be ones who will cock their guns at you.
Some will take shots
that look like Slut
that look like Ugly
that look like Loser
that look like Fat, Snob, Bitch, Prude.
Learn that you do not need a shield.
A shield simply deflects,
it sends the shot back at its owner
and you, sweetheart, are so much better than that.
Learn to catch bullets with your bare hands
drop them in a pile by your feet,
you can bury them later.
Water them
but not with your tears, never with your tears darling.
Your tears are pearls.
String them, wear the necklace proudly
or else bottle them and auction them off.
You are worth millions,
never sell yourself for anything less.
Your tree will grow twisted
and knurled in pain, it will not look pretty,
it was born a thousand years old
but do not let the willows weep for it
it will bud beautifully
it will produce the sweetest fruit you have ever tasted.
Don’t forget to share.
Pluck the flowers and feed them to the open mouthed
graves of all the people you don’t know,
all the ones you never met.
Thank them
for making today what it is.
Lay with your ear in the dirt
swear you can hear the earth’s heartbeat,
swear it sounds just like your name.
Your veins are kite strings,
do not be afraid to fly them to the moon.
Walk barefoot so you can feel
how the heavy pulse of summer feels identical to your own,
learn to sail on its hot breath.
Never sing under your breath,
it is far too easy to lose your voice
if you are burying it.
Never stop asking questions,
but don’t be afraid to look for some of the answers yourself.
Never forget to dance.
Never let your dress keep you
From jumping in puddles,
the hem will get wet
don’t let it weigh you down.
It’s okay to get dirty,
you are a storm,
you can bathe in the rain.
You mustn’t be too ashamed to flash the lightning.
Open your legs like a map,
like a scavenger hunt to your heart,
there will be boys in your life
that will crash over your shoreline at high tide
and pull you out to sea
while you tumble head over heels over heels over elbows and knees over head
in love.
Never forget how to swim.
You can’t laugh without taking in water, but you will try.
Understand that there are things in this world
even Mother Nature cannot teach her daughter,
there are some lessons in this life
you will have to learn on your own.