Real love By: Winston Mayo

I have never been in love, but that doesn’t mean I can’t tell you what love is not

It’s not real love if these relationship have people feeling stuck As if they’re in a prison to the people stealing their heart because it wasn’t being freely given But that’s probably the reason why we call getting into a relationship getting cuffed, because sometimes you been with this person so long you’re heart strings become heart shackles, Because you have so much past it’s the only reason you are staying in the present, but it’s ironic because we always stay because of the potential of someone changing meaning we are dating the future but stuck with what’s right now. But at the end of the day it’s all just a waste of time. But real love doesn’t waste time, but uses it And neither one feels as if you’re being used because you are giving and taking each other’s time while still living in the moment, So when time runs out you have enjoyed one another’s time So it leaves you asking where has the time gone? And that isn’t real love If the last place this guy took you on vacation to was a guilt trip, Because after you caught him being too familiar with a few females to be fouled into believing they’re just friends But he made you feel like you had no ground to land or stand on well, ant that you have too much baggage for your love to take flight. Because it ain’t real love but you’re only infatuated, because the fact is this guy’s trying to figure out how far he can alienate you from his family and friends while still seeing you naked I am telling you that this thing isn’t real love, but you’re only love sick Because it is sickening how disgustingly bad he can treat you and you still thinks he loves you. He thinks that you’re a dime a dozen, instead of 1 in a million But you are making excuses for him like it’s ok if he miscounts, he’s only human But isn’t there a saying that says, it’s the thought that counts? So he thought that he thinks of you is very little, because there is nothing to call what y’all have, because there is no name for casual sex And he doesn’t give what y’all have a title, because he doesn’t want you feeling entitled to having a place in his life. And they say hind sight is 20/20 And they also say that love is blind so it’s not ironic that you keep falling for these same ole guys Ladies the only thing different about college boys is the haircut, and you have to face that that fades away But what if the sex isn’t casual but you’re official with this potential But you say to yourself of course I am sleeping with him because he is my boyfriend But ladies no, commitment is where we separate the boys from the men, I mean separate the boyfriends from the husbands or the has beens Because when it comes to commitment, if he can’t commit to be with you for the rest of your lives it wasn’t meant to be. But you he says to you if you really love him you would express it through sex But did you know can’t spell express without S-E-X, But it’s not express as in show but express as quick So that’s the fast track to knowing this relationship is derailing. Because he says if you really love him you would show it, but have stopped and thought if he really loves and respects you he would show it and wait? But wait, no he knows you aren’t the one, but hopes you are one of the many, so of course he is a hurry. But real love doesn’t hurry Let me tell you what real love is. Real love is standing outside and your significant other is cold and their discomfort makes you uncomfortable, so uncover by giving them your clothes, but by doing so you are exposing your arms to the cold but revealing the warmth of your love But anyone can take off clothes, but Real love is knowing you can get intimate with someone while still being fully clothed Real love is forever. Real love is the eternal that speaks to your internal so it makes you feel good inside until you can’t hold it in any longer and it manifest to the physical smile in the external. So what is real love? So I’ve read a love story or two in my day and I think that the greatest love story I have heard was God’s love for the world, for He gave His only begotten son that whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have ever lasting life. So to find real love is to believe, and I believe that God is love. God the three of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit who are in one. So when two individuals comes together in one holy matrimony They are giving one to another, so giving parts, so even though they are giving themselves away nothing feels missing because they’re together so they’re still wholly. So, I have never been in love, but I do know

1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV) 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

So though I may have never been in love, I know it will be everything this poem isn’t.