1. I was supposed to be a boy.
Doctor’s conceptions and my family’s history stated
That only two girls had been born into the Shepardson family in three generations.
I was going to be a boy.
When my parents got their ultrasound they didn’t bother asking what the sex was.
My name was going to be Kyle.
On a note, scribbled quickly on the edge of a piece of paper that my parents kept when they were picking names, was one girl out of seven boys.
I wasn't born a boy.
My parents took this surprise in stride and raised me right.
It’s a good thing they have a sense of humor because I was the first of three girls.
When I was growing up, my parents tell me I was neither a tomboy nor a girly girl.
I liked wearing dresses and having “brunch” with my dad.
But if you asked me what fairy tale character I wanted to be I usually said
I was six the first time I ever punched someone with the intention of bruising.
He said that girls weren’t stronger than boys
To this day:
I remember what my knuckles hitting his collarbone felt like.
My teacher reprimanded me saying, “Young ladies don’t hit.”
When I was nine I had a dream that I was crawling up into my parents bed
I rested my cheek on my father’s warm arms and he patted my head and sleepily said:
“Go to bed Kyle. Go to bed.”
In my nightmare he didn’t remember what he had said the next morning.
By the time I was ten I refused to wear dresses.
Instead of putting Kyle to sleep, I let Katelyn slip into daydreams with lullabies.
Nourishing her on old fairy tales like sleeping beauty and snow white.
Letting Kyle pick the fights.
She got to sleep in until I was nearly 15.
To this day:
I don’t like taking naps.
2. Just Some Facts
Fact: The first time I had an emotional breakdown around one of my friends he asked me if I was on my period.
Fact: Women make nearly half a million less than their male counterparts over the course of their careers.
Fact: 1 in 3 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes.
Fact: An article on Psychalive.org stated: “Women develop a victimized approach to life in order to maintain their powerlessness. Therefore, rather than assert themselves to achieve their goals, they manipulate their mates with indirect maneuvers such as weakness, helplessness and emotionality.”
Fact: I am not a victim.
Fact: I Am Female.
Fact: I shouldn't have to apologize for being born.
3. “It is a generous deed to bury a female child”
93,000 girls are “missing” from Armenia
The single best predictor of a state’s peacefulness is not money or democracy.
It’s how well women are treated.
60 million girls are “missing” from India
A survey of Indian abortion clinics found that out of 8,000 cases 7,999 aborted babies were girls.
90million girls are “missing” from China
If a woman doesn’t produce a son she is a failure.
500 Chinese women commit suicide every day.
200million girls are “missing” from our global population
Don’t tell me is this going away,
When there have been 539 baby girls missing every day since 1990.
Don’t tell me this is going away.
That society is growing up,
When 200million girls will not.
This is what happens when girls are supposed to be boys.